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The tribes you build

The life you want to create, the type of person you want to become, the parts of yourself you’re most excited to cultivate will attract people who will help you get there.

Your relationships are catalysts — the foundations you need to squeeze wisdom from experience and failure. Authentic connection is expansive: the right relationship at the right time are wings to freedom.

Even at your very worst, you were someone’s pride and joy. Remember this when you forget the best parts of your being. Because somewhere in that fog of confusion and longing, we can help each other find laughter and gratitude. Your highest highs and lowest lows are different than mine; the value lies in sharing and discovering what these experiences were like for each of us.

Our mutual appreciation for life — the ups and downs, the hard lessons and the easy ones — might not happen at the same time. Your up might be my down; but no matter, when we do find ourselves together, we can share which lessons that made us better.

The point is to build tribes so that we can elevate and push each other to succeed.

When we collaborate, our ideas become richer. Like a prism, the perspectives we uniquely offer brings treasure. It’s our gift — and our duty — to find it.

Modified from What connect us, posted August 2013.

Practice not perfect

Showing up requires a level of greatness.

You may not want to, you may be busy, you may tell yourself you’re not capable — but your effort, your trying, your beginning

Start.

That’s where the magic happens.

It’s not the perfection. It’s not even the win.

What do you gain in the doing? How do you grow along the way?

Pick your word

It’s been a heck of a year and with a few days left, I want to share a ritual of mine: Choose a word, a theme you’d like to set for for the year to come. (This year my word was “Courage,” and boy, did I need it.) For 2021, I’m choosing “Joy.” I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to welcome more spark, more pleasure, more happiness, and more fun.

Tell me your word for the year to come @redheadlefthand.

Sending greetings and wishes for a restorative, healthy, and calm new year — a year filled with laughter, joy, and magic.

The weight you carry

On a normal day, you carry a certain amount of stress. Depending on the season or time in your life, you may be adding extra to that load. This weight looks different for everyone, and someone may be carrying more — or less — than you at any given time.

Have compassion.

When your arms feel tired, take time to focus on your foundation: Your basic needs for today.

Concentrate on the first next step. The rest will fall into place.

Are your friends ready to evolve with you?

Different experiences demand different strengths, and different phases of life bring different challenges.

What areas of your life do you refuse to compromise?

Set non-negotiables and make moves accordingly. Then, trust yourself enough to know that if it doesn’t feel right, you will go.

Confidence grows from clarity.

Dealing with fear

Fear stops relationships from growing, businesses from booming, and projects from shipping. But to deal with fear — to dance with it — you have to first recognize the role it plays in your creative process.

Fear is natural. It’s not going anywhere.

It’s much better to learn to see it and confront it so you can put it in its rightful place.

Don’t shy aware from fear. Dance with it, instead.

Tell me what helps you manage your fears @redheadlefthand.