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Embrace mess

Side steps. Mistakes. A missed call. Broken code. Messes are often where innovation is found; the places we release control and let go of “perfection” is the space the unexpected is allowed room to breathe.

Julia Margaret Cameron’s smudgy photographs became her hallmark. Navajo rug weavers intentionally left imperfections in their work. Wabi sabi ceramics celebrate imperfections. Silly Putty wasn’t meant to be entertainment, and Potato Chips were the result of a complaining customer.

The next time you feel like you’ve made a horrible decision or dropped the ball, see if you can reframe the moment as an opportunity.

Have any of your mistakes worked in your favor? Tell me @redheadlefthand.

Celebrating 9 years of connection, questions, inspiration, adventure, and more

Welcome! And hooray!

After over nine years of blogging, dinners, questions, and exploration, I thought it was time to spruce things up. You may notice a new look on my pages. (If you see any “bugs” or places that need attention, let me know.)

Project Exponential now redirects to my personal site. Dinners in NYC may resume, but they’ll be adjusted according to scale and demand.

In the meantime, I’m taking on a select number of coaching clients and will consider consulting and writing projects upon request. If you’re interested in working together, you can reach out.

I’m grateful to be on this adventure with you. Thanks for being here.

Braving intimacy

Intimacy is a series of steps, a sometimes timid momentum that helps define who we are and what we most fear. Choices that shine light on the walls surrounding each one of us.

That gap between “too much” and not enough. A hesitant share. The pause before an extended hand. Gentle questions to better understand.

Of course there are risks. But the best things in life happen because of these leaps

The tribes you build

The life you want to create, the type of person you want to become, the parts of yourself you’re most excited to cultivate will attract people who will help you get there.

Your relationships are catalysts — the foundations you need to squeeze wisdom from experience and failure. Authentic connection is expansive: the right relationship at the right time are wings to freedom.

Even at your very worst, you were someone’s pride and joy. Remember this when you forget the best parts of your being. Because somewhere in that fog of confusion and longing, we can help each other find laughter and gratitude. Your highest highs and lowest lows are different than mine; the value lies in sharing and discovering what these experiences were like for each of us.

Our mutual appreciation for life — the ups and downs, the hard lessons and the easy ones — might not happen at the same time. Your up might be my down; but no matter, when we do find ourselves together, we can share which lessons that made us better.

The point is to build tribes so that we can elevate and push each other to succeed.

When we collaborate, our ideas become richer. Like a prism, the perspectives we uniquely offer brings treasure. It’s our gift — and our duty — to find it.

Modified from What connect us, posted August 2013.

The conversations you have

The conversations you have directly influence your reality.

Want a more positive outlook? Be intentional with your words.

Working a passion project? Talk about what you create.

Looking to spark change in your community? Listen to stories.

Want to make introductions more meaningful? Ask better questions.

Delaying projects that matter? Announce your goals to people who care.