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Tag: perspective

Do you know your value?

Your value is much more than a dollar amount. It’s your time, your emotional investment, your energy, your connections. It’s your life.

Your worth is not just about confidence. It’s your dreams, where you’re going, what you want. It’s knowing what you need to get there and asking for it, unapologetically and with conviction.

By recognizing your worth, you’re helping colleagues and partners understand your art and the work that you do. You’re giving permission for others to acknowledge your greatness, and you’re making it easier for them to do so. In fact, knowing your worth will make many things easier — decisions, saying no, welcoming that which brings you joy, defining roles within both personal relationships and work agreements.

The confidence you have in yourself is contagious. Understand you’re bettering others by bettering yourself.

67 things to feel absolutely OK about

  1. admitting you’re wrong
  2. changing your mind
  3. carefully making decisions
  4. stillness
  5. failing
  6. taking big risks
  7. doing things for free
  8. doing what you’re good at
  9. doing nothing
  10. charging what you’re worth
  11. quitting
  12. losing
  13. aiming high
  14. falling flat
  15. guessing
  16. your emotions
  17. anxiety
  18. nervousness
  19. reading and rereading and reading two or three more times your working draft
  20. standing in line
  21. speaking up for yourself
  22. disagreeing with leaders
  23. backing down
  24. making your own rules
  25. recognizing your priorities
  26. saying no
  27. saying yes
  28. revisiting your goals
  29. rewording your story
  30. waiting for the right moment
  31. sending an email with a spelling mistake
  32. rehearsing your conversation
  33. practicing your pitch again and again (and again!)
  34. writing down what you’re planning to say
  35. fear
  36. uncertainty
  37. making lists
  38. leaving lists unfinished
  39. eating dessert
  40. shutting off your phone
  41. leaving emails unanswered
  42. making a mess
  43. working on vacation
  44. sleeping in
  45. envy
  46. rejection
  47. yourself
  48. being different
  49. being alone
  50. wanting a tribe
  51. setting boundaries
  52. avoiding unknown social situations
  53. crying
  54. caring “too much”
  55. seeing a half-empty glass
  56. seeing a glass that is half full
  57. singing out of tune
  58. dancing without rhythm
  59. hugging
  60. not having a plan
  61. being the odd one out
  62. asking questions
  63. observing
  64. laughing in a meeting
  65. being the boss
  66. redefining professionalism
  67. answering “I don’t know.”

Are you near or far sighted?

10 questions to help you decide:

1. Can you describe the life you want?

2. What does a perfect day look like, from the moment you wake until the moment you sleep?

3. Do you have an end goal in mind?

4. Is there a problem you want to solve?

5. Do you want a thriving business that lasts after you’re gone?

6. Are you wanting to make someone’s life easier?

7. Are you putting work into the world that is fulfilling?

8. Do you regularly experience love, prosperity, joy?

9. Are you creating a legend you’re proud of?

10. Have you found time to honestly ask: what makes my heart soar?

I don’t know about you, but I’m over titles, degrees, labels, accolades.

I want to know about the work you’re proud of, the art you shipped, the dreams that light your face with promise.

I see “hope” as wishful thinking. I believe there are concrete steps you can take — today — to make your wildest dreams come true.

Focus your vision on what really matters to you.

What skill/tool/lesson do you wish you would have learned earlier? Read responses from yesterday’s #cxchat here.

Is quitting an option?

Quitting might be the best thing you can do.

Quitting is a largely underrated skill. By removing yourself from situations that are detrimental to your growth, you place yourself on the fast track towards opportunity and success. Read more on why quitting might be good for you in this NY Times article.
A few things you might consider quitting:

  • where you live
  • your career
  • relationships
  • your job
  • destructive habits
  • irrelevant projects
  • time wasters
  • negative thoughts

Why (and when) should I quit?

Questions to help you decide if quitting is the best option:

  1. Is this person / situation / job / environment helping me move closer to the person I aim to be?
  2. Do I find this person / situation / job / environment supportive or destructive?
  3. Am I inspired to think big, create, start, and finish?
  4. Is the work I am doing meaningful, important to me, bettering my community, and/or changing lives?
  5. Do I mostly feel calm, confidant, and secure?
  6. Am I able to nourish most aspects of my being (mental, physical, spiritual) and accomplish the goals I’ve set for myself?

[You can also check out this Should I Quit? online questionnaire. Or find someone who can help you walk through this process.]

You always have options.

Instead of quitting, you could:

  • hope the situation improves
  • wait for things to change
  • complain about them
  • work to improve them
  • ignore them
  • get fired
  • settle

The important thing is that you realize you have choices.
The difficult part is honestly assessing which one is right for you.

The anti-resume

I hope one day you realize you don’t need a resume.

The kind of people you want to work with don’t want to see your list of interests and accolades. They don’t care about your work history, what schools you’ve attended, what awards you’ve won.

They want to know what work you’ve put into the world, what you’ve left behind, where you’re going.

The best work stands for itself.

Your resume is the communities that miss you after you’ve left, the imprint you leave behind. The relationships you’ve forged, the lives you’ve touched, and the work that sparkles with your finesse — this is your resume.

When you realize this, you’ll be filled with freedom and independence: titles no longer matter, job descriptions are irrelevant, length of employment fails to indicate your loyalty and value.

Your success doesn’t rest in the hands of another.

Why spend another moment waiting for the phone to ring? You’re worth more than that.

What if you created your own tribe, shipped your own art, designed a viable solution? Don’t wait for opportunities that may never find you. Create them. For yourself.

And change lives along the way.