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Assigning meaning

Perspective keeps coming up in Positive Talk sessions. From media articles to family conversations, the meanings we assign to situations, reactions, and words can weigh significantly on our perception and interpretation of the world around us.

This is important for three reasons.

One, we get to choose how we want to interpret a given situation.

Two, we get to decide how important any situation will become.

Three, our choices dramatically impact the way we feel.

Now, more than ever, the definitions we use to understand ourselves, our communities, our cultures, and our world are open to interpretation. Though many of us are “stuck” physically, our minds are free to roam.

Perspective can be the flashlight needed to navigate uncertain, challenging circumstances.

It’s worth taking time to review your own assigned meanings. (And yes, it is possible to edit the meanings we have assigned to ourselves, to others, and to the ways in which we perceive what is happening around — and to — us.)

Each day, we make a series of decisions.

Decisions of worry or freedom. Creation or inaction. Calm or frenzy. Patience or frustration.

Take time to reconsider the meanings you assign.

If dinner conversations can change the world

Social media is abuzz with prevailing issues. How to provide platforms for underrepresented voices. How to protect those speaking out against injustice. How to tip scales and create balanced systems of power.

Maybe it’s overwhelming to expect or look for answers. Maybe the best we can do is focus on finding solutions through awareness. From awareness comes discussion.

If people aren’t encouraged to tell their stories for fear of retribution or alienation or ostracism, how can we fight for change? If derogatory names are spat freely, if media remains unmonitored and unchecked, how will anyone find the people they need — those to assemble, those who create, those who listen.

One day, legislative change. For today, maybe it starts with a conversation at dinner.

What are you holding on to?

anger 

resentment

worry

perfection

pleasing others

scarcity

negativity

complacency

insecurity

criticism

expectations

mistakes

frustration

roadblocks

failure

drama

stagnation

anxiety

decisiveness

freedom

creativity

confidence

possibility

abundance

compliments

goals

dreams

change

hope

ease

action

clarity

kindness

You get to decide what you want to cling to.

If it isn’t serving you, let go.

Ask for what you need

Before you can ask, you have to know what you need.

When you pay attention to how you ask for what you need, you may be surprised. If you fail to voice for what it is that you require, how will the universe bring it to you? Owning your feelings gives you the platform to issue requests.

Assertiveness doesn’t need to be an intimidating habit, however; understanding the areas in which you experience lack help can contribute to greater empathy, more confidence, and deeper understanding. Advocating for your needs increases the likelihood of success.

To improve your asking skills, check out this nifty guide from The Creative Independent.