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Tag: success

It’s a set up.

I say this phrase often, and most of the time people don’t know what I’m talking about.

I think of life as a set up.

Why? You can either set yourself up for success or failure.

Think about it: from the people you’re with to the clothes you wear to the books you read to the ways you spend your after hours, you are making choices. I’ll say it again.

You are making choices that directly impact your happiness and chance at success. Daily.

I know it can suck to hear this. And I also know that yes, life can throw curveballs and things that exist beyond our control. Accidents happen.

But generally speaking…

The reason you’re lonely isn’t their fault.

The people who are happy aren’t just lucky.

The successful people on top don’t just end up there.

It’s a result of painstakingly HARD WORK.

The choices aren’t always easy ones, and I won’t lie and tell you there won’t be days you feel like quitting.

Make an effort.

Put yourself in situations to gain the experience you need.

Surround yourself with people who can elevate, encourage, and inspire you.

Identify what you need to get where you want to go, and make it happen. 

Set yourself up for the life you truly want.

Yes, you can choose

The people around you have a direct impact on your vision, your drive, your goals, your performance, and the way you dream. Their passion can inspire you to reach for more, or their apathy can dissuade you from continuing progress.

If you recognize the importance of carefully choosing friends, consider the responsibility when identifying leaders, company mastheads, presidents.

How do you see risk?

Everyone experiences risk. No one is immune to the anxiety that comes with it.
The difference between the daring and the successful is that they’ve learned to cope with it.
Questions to ask:
How can I minimize my anxieties surrounding this?
Can I make myself feel better about this decision?
The more you dive, the more you’ll enter the water in a way that doesn’t hurt, and the board won’t seem quite as high…
Jump.

Do you want to win?

Every day I speak with individuals who tell me they want to succeed in a big way. While “success” can mean something different to each person, most people are looking to surpass the point they’ve arrived to date — a refreshed, higher, faster, better, cleaner, sharper, more focused state of being. Which seems pretty intuitive. People with ambition and drive want to move forward. Occupying the same space without any change one year from now can sound frightening, if not repulsive, to those with momentum and growth on the mind.

Yet, too often, these same individuals are taking specific actions in their lives to demonstrate otherwise, indirectly sabotaging their path towards greatness.

Find a mentor, a group, an outsider who will level with you and call your bluff. Put yourself in the position to listen openly and honestly, so that this time next year, you’ll have moved in the direction and at the speed you intended.

Life’s a set up.

We all know the crime scene where the good guy is framed by the bad guy. “It’s not fair,” we say. “He was framed!”

We set ourselves up every day.

Happiness, good friends, a rewarding career, an organized household — they’re the result of choices. The places we go and the people we surround ourselves with result in particular outcomes.

The choices aren’t always easy, but that’s why not everyone is successful.

Set yourself up to prosper.

Universal worry: “Am I good enough?”

“Do I belong in this group?”
“Does what I have to say matter?”
“Are my ideas valuable?”
These are questions that have plagued the most brave, the most confident, the most successful among us. At some point in time, most people have had these thoughts.
The difference lies in the answer.
Successful people know how to convince themselves “YES!”
And even if they don’t believe it, they pretend anyway.