Intimacy isn’t only found in relationships. The energy you put into work and into yourself also requires closeness, attention, warmth, and care.
How much effort are you putting forth? What are you holding back? Are you “all in” or hesitantly waiting to see how things pan out?
It is natural to build mechanisms to protect yourself from pain and disappointment and failure. But if the defenses you’ve built are stopping you from establishing meaningful relationships and putting your best work into projects that are important to you, it is worth evaluating whether such precautions are necessary.
Which boundaries are essential and which are limiting your growth as an individual, a partner, a colleague, and as a friend?