Creating with intention
anger
worry
perfection
pleasing others
negativity
complacency
criticism
expectations
mistakes
frustration
failure
drama
stagnation
decisiveness
freedom
creativity
possibility
abundance
compliments
goals
hope
action
clarity
You get to decide what you want to cling to.
If it isn’t serving you, let go.
Before you can ask, you have to know what you need.
When you pay attention to how you ask for what you need, you may be surprised. If you fail to voice for what it is that you require, how will the universe bring it to you? Owning your feelings gives you the platform to issue requests.
Assertiveness doesn’t need to be an intimidating habit, however; understanding the areas in which you experience lack help can contribute to greater empathy, more confidence, and deeper understanding. Advocating for your needs increases the likelihood of success.
To improve your asking skills, check out this nifty guide from The Creative Independent.
“You dont get what you want, you get what you tolerate.”
Tonya Leigh
Tonya Leigh has great perspective on living life artfully and well. She encourages her clients to establish a Red Velvet Rope policy — the idea that you treat your life like a carefully cultivated VIP nightclub. Imagine a strict dress code, exclusive invites, and the best party around.
Sometimes, without even realizing it, we lower our standards. The way we speak to ourselves. How we treat ourselves. What we think of our own accomplishments.
When you raise the bar on your own life, you raise your standards. When your standards are lifted, your life will automatically experience an upgrade. Here are 7 ways you can raise your standards today:
1. Upgrade what you put into your mind. The books you read, the podcasts you listen to, the magazines you consume, the accounts you follow.
2. Change your conversations. Notice when negative outweighs the positive. Focus on creation, not destruction.
3. Invest in yourself. Sign up for a class, set a goal you hope to accomplish by the end of the month, schedule time to hit the gym, find a life coach.
4. Stop worrying. Anxiety chases dreams. Make a list of your worries, then set it aside. Sure, some fear is justified and real, but worrying won’t help you level up.
5. Edit your relationships. Minimize time spent with gossips and energy vampires. Find like-minded dreamers who encourage each other to succeed.
6. Expect more. Expect more from yourself and those close to you. You’ll love the results.
7. Rewrite definitions. So much of the way we see the world and ourselves comes down to definition. Those definitions can be changed. Tony Robbins says most people simply give up, stop trying, and accept “That’s just the way it is.” It doesn’t have to be this way.
Raising your standards isn’t about making money or becoming famous. This is about mindset.
Expect more. You’re worth it.
Risk is often associated with negative consequence and bad bets. Yet sometimes risk can bring opportunity, growth, confidence, and responsibility. The right risk-taking behaviors build self esteem and self-efficacy, the belief in your own ability to perform and create change. Positive risk-taking encourages you to take control over your own life.
Examples of risk converted into opportunity:
For risk-taking to become positive, potential benefits and consequences must be fully explored. Evaluating your priorities and potential can help identify the resources available to you as you draw up strategies to minimize negative outcomes. This work can be time consuming — but worth it.
Some questions to ask:
Sometimes the sign is right in front of you and you can see it clearly for yourself.
Sometimes the sign is blurry and you have to squint.
Sometimes you don’t see any sign at all.
Sometimes someone else can help you see what is in front of you.
Find the person who helps you see.
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