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15 things that can happen when you meet the right person

  1. You are encouraged to continue your plan.
  2. Your beliefs are questioned, challenged, possibly scrutinized.
  3. New solutions are brainstormed, and different outcomes to existing situations are imagined.
  4. A new approach is considered.
  5. You learn something about yourself and/or the world.
  6. You are prompted to change, grow, create, question.
  7. Unexpected commonalities are uncovered.
  8. Mutual beliefs are shared and exchanged.
  9. An authentic emotional exchange takes place.
  10. Meaningful conversation occurs, and a deep connection is experienced by both individuals.
  11. A deep respect develops.
  12. Your confidence is strengthened.
  13. You are inspired to explore a new path.
  14. Additional introductions manifest as a result of the meeting.
  15. The meeting leaves you with energy — with new ideas, zest for life, passion.

Last year’s learnings

Unapologetically know your worth.
Reinvent yourself often.
No situation is worth your health or happiness.
If your passion is dying, change something.
Your heart doesn’t lie.
Relationships take work, effort, and commitment.
Both sides need to be equally invested for it to work.
You can’t prepare for the unexpected. Just know it can happen.
Don’t be afraid to scream YES! when opportunity comes knocking.
Hiding excitement doesn’t benefit anyone.
No one will set boundaries for you.
No one knows what you’re truly capable of.
You are so much greater than you think.
Life is more fun when you’re authentic.
There’s no better way to learn about yourself and the world than through adventure.
Everyone loves a good surprise.
It’s up to you to communicate and demonstrate your passion.
Ship. Ship often.
Go.

Jumping is scary. Do it anyway.

As a young woman, I hitchhiked alone and traveled across many countries. I went head-to-head with lawyers and counseled delinquents. I earned a masters from an ivy-league, received a state license, and wrangled my way into an entirely new industry. I directed and designed and produced successful events, facilitating valuable connections between people who otherwise might not have met.

But it wasn’t enough.

I needed more experience. I wanted more connections. I didn’t have enough knowledge. I wasn’t ready. And if I’m entirely honest, I didn’t think I was enough. (Turns out, I was wrong. I just needed to jump.)
I know I’m not the only one. Everyday I talk to entrepreneurs, corporate executives, and artists who struggle to take the first leap into the unknown.

…It’s not the right time…I don’t have the resources…I can’t find the time…I’m worried about money…

We do this to ourselves. We sabotage our dreams. We’re afraid.

Deep down, we know that if we put our mind to it, we have the capabilities to break our biggest goals into manageable, digestible chunks. But we over-chew. We convince ourselves the path we’ve been traveling on, the one we’ve been walking down for some time, is the safest and best option. We lower the height of our own sky and the limits to which we’re capable of flying. We lull ourselves into forgetting the sweet deliciousness of new experiences.

Fortunately, it’s never too late. It is just a matter of making that decision.

You must choose. Nothing will happen until you decide to venture away from the safe waters into territory where there is no rulebook, no play-by-play. While you can find leaders and teachers and people whose experiences might mimic your own (and it is imperative that you do), there is no “on the job training.” It’s up to you to figure it out.

Sometimes the hardest thing is recognizing what you want. The next hardest is to begin. By recognizing there’s no prescribed way to land that dream job, dream family, dream life, we open ourselves to an entirely new world. A world that is uniquely ours to create.

Dare yourself. Set goals and work backwards. Plan checkpoints along the way and reward yourself when you reach them. Gather information, collect the necessary experiences, and confidently step in the direction of your dreams.

Don’t hold yourself back. If not for yourself, do it for the people around you. Show them what it looks like to lead a life that is uniquely yours, a life filled with magic and dreams and adventure.

Jump.

You’re not going to please everyone.

Focus on what you’re passionate about.

People will be able to sense this passion in your writing and your work.

No matter what the topic — Marilyn Manson, Plato, an empty trash bag used as rain gear — someone will be compelled to read or to buy.

Forget about the rest.